The Benefits of Talking Through Your Marriage Problems
If couples focus on talking through their marriage problems, they can quickly stop thoughts of divorce from
becoming a reality. Most marriages have problems at some point and not communicating about them makes the problems
worse. If couples don't talk to each other, they are going to become more and more disconnected from one
Even if you think you have done all you could to fix your marriage, it could still fail. It may be because you
have not worked with a marriage counselor. Counseling is something many people don’t want to consider for a variety
of reasons. Some people are embarrassed that they have problems and don’t want others to know that their marriage
is in trouble and have to talk with a counselor.
Help with Problem Solving
In many marriages, there is one spouse who wants to work with a counselor and one who doesn’t want to do that.
The spouse who won’t go to counseling may be ready to get a divorce and move on. If this is the case with you, it
will be difficult to convince your spouse to give your relationship another chance by working with a marriage
counselor. Usually, the reason a spouse does not want to work with a counselor is he wants to solve problems on his
own instead of with outside help.
Marriage counseling can save your relationship. If you and your spouse can learn how to communicate better, your
relationship will get better. A marriage counselor can be someone who mediates the difficult discussions between
husband and wife. If there are serious issues in a marriage, the couple are probably barely communicating with
each other. The couple is afraid of being the first to start to talk or may be stubborn. Counselors can help
couples negotiate an agreement between the two of them so they can start working on their problems
Marriage counselors don’t take sides so they can help a couple start talking again. Marriage counselors help
couples focus on the future instead of bringing up old issues again and again. A counselor will offer a different
perspective to the couple and keep their communication going the right direction. A lot of couples keep arguing
about the same old issues repeatedly so they never find any resolution.
How to Break the Cycle
You may have heard the saying that you are going to get the same results if you keep doing the same thing over
and over. When a couple argues about the same issues over and over, they are never going to get anywhere. They keep
will only keep repeating the same things with the same attitude and they will keep getting the same results.
Marriage counselors can help couples resolve many issues. The focus is on the word "help" because counselors
can’t solve problems for a couple because that is something only the couples can do. A counselor can guide the
couple towards the solutions for their problems by giving them an objective way to look at them.
Different couples will have to work on their marriage problems for varying amounts of time depending on how
serious their problems are and how open to the process the couples are. If both spouses are willing to be open and
have an honest conversation, it can go quicker. Another factor will be how willing a couple is to apply what they
learn at their counseling sessions when they get home. If a couple attends marriage counseling but does not take
what they learn to heart and apply it in their life, it won’t help them.
The only way marriage counseling can work is if the couple wants to improve their relationship and is willing to
start communicating. Counseling can help a couple move past the familiar arguments and start to solve the
underlying problems in their relationship. There are many issues that cause problems in a marriage including sex,
jobs, kids, substance abuse, money, and cheating. These are what a lot of couples end up fighting about.
Talk About Your Problems
If you want to save your marriage and stop divorce, you and your spouse are going to have to talk
about your problems. The best way to do this is to work with a counselor who can help you start opening up the
lines of communication between the two of you. Constant arguing in marriages can actually make a couple physically
ill due to the stress and the lack of sleep. This only makes things worse in the relationship.
You need to value your marriage enough to not let fear or embarrassment stop you from getting marriage
counseling. You can get a different view on your problems from a counselor. If you and your spouse are willing to
work on the relationship, it can be saved.