Dating Dilemma: Should You Date More People or Date Just One?
Stop and think about the following two scenarios: In one year, you could date between 10 to 15 people having a
few dates with each person. You could also spend the year dating one person, building a healthy relationship. Which
sounds better to you?
If you had to do one or the other, which would you prefer to do? Everyone would have a different answer for this
question but when you figure out which one you want to do, you can get a better idea of what you are truly looking
for when you date. Let’s get into more detail about the options.
Option #1: Date Between 10 and 15 People in a Year
With this option, you would be dating each person for close to a month or you could date several people at once
for however long you prefer. You may not be the type of person who likes to be with just one person for a long
That's fine if you let people you date know that is what you are looking for early on. This would be an
enjoyable year full of lots of different adventures with different people. Would spending time with this many
people in a year leave you happy?
Think about what you want out of life and what makes you happy to figure this out. You could find someone you
had a good connection with but soon you will have to move on to the next person.
One benefit of this choice is that you could date enough people to see what you really want in a partner so you
when you are ready to settle down, you already know what you want.
Option #2: Date One Person for a Year
Dating just one person is not right for everyone and it is not really popular with younger people. You may think
you would lose interest in the person during this time. You may think that spending a year with one person would be
great because it is going to give you time to really grow your relationship and make it strong.
If you don’t spend enough time with one person, it may be difficult for you to see who the other person is and
if he or she is right for you. It is easy to give up on a relationship when things get tough. If you are going to
spend the rest of your life with one person, you can enjoy that time but you have to make sure you choose someone
you have fun with.
Everyone will have a different choice in this situation. Some people may prefer a combination of the two. What
this article is meant to do is to make you think about what it is you are looking for when you date someone.
You can use what you learned about yourself to make good choices in your dating life. You shouldn’t waste time
with people who aren’t right for you or who are doing things that are not right for you.